8.15.2012

if i could write a letter to me...

i would say to be kinder to those around you. you never know when someone will leave this life. people come and people go, and once they are gone, you find yourself reflecting on how you treated them, each moment you had with them, and what you would've done differently if you knew they were going to go to heaven as soon as they did. death is a hard thing, make sure you treat everyone you meet, close to your heart or not, with respect, love and kindness. go out of your way to make people feel welcome and let them know you care.
i would say to let the little things go. don't make a big deal out of things that won't matter tomorrow. make sure you forgive quickly, be slow to anger, and to put yourself in the other person's shoes once in a while. you aren't always right, so don't pretend you are. always be the first to say sorry, and know it's okay to give in. you aren't losing the fight, you are just letting the other person know that you can compromise and that you can control your temper and your feelings. you will be glad you did.
i would say to take a date night with your husband once a week. leave the baby home, he will be just fine, and get out with your husband, just you two. it helps you see why you fell in love with each other without any distractions, and you get to see each other in the light you used to see all the time...without the kiddos. it's a good thing. your baby will be fine, and so will you, even if the tears come each time you drop him off. your relationship has strengthened so much because of your son, and it will get even stronger as you go out every week.
i would say to never, ever take even a moment for granted with your son. he is the most precious soul in your life, and he has made you better and happier than you ever imagined possible. he grows way too fast, so fast you don't even realize it. take time to cuddle him, play with him, read to him, rock him, sing to him, love him, kiss him, tickle him, hug him, and enjoy the tantrums, crying and endless crawling. know that each babble he makes will melt your heart, and you will love him more and more each second. and i would say that it's normal for you to get emotional every time you think about how much you love him. it's been like that since he's born, and i don't think that's going to change.
i would say take the time to get ready everyday. you were so good at this before you had a baby. everyday you got up, did your hair, makeup and felt sexy each time you went out the door. you are getting better at this, it's only taken a full year, but try to do it every day, even if you aren't leaving the house today. you deserve it, and so does your husband.
i would say keep the house clean. i know it feels like a tornado came through each time your baby touches any room, but that's okay. the messes can be cleaned up with effort. it's good exercise, and you will feel the spirit more with a clean house. it's been tried and tested :)
i would say to go visit your mom more. even though she is super woman, and always so busy, she really does need you and your company. she needs your support, your love, and someone to talk to in those hours she is home by herself. she is only human, and all of us need a shoulder to cry on or someone to vent to once in a while. make an effort to let her know you love her more than she knows, and that you are always there no matter what. go have sleepovers once in a while. she would love it, and so would you.
i would say to take the time to do the little things for your husband you used to do in the beginning of your marriage. make him scavenger hunts, play games, write him little notes, make alarms in his phone telling him how sexy and amazing he is, and buy him little gifts that won't break the bank, but will let him know that you were thinking of him. he is your everything, and you are so blessed beyond measure to have found someone who was perfectly made for you in every way, and someone who loves you and will do anything for you no matter what. he is amazing, and makes you better. let him know you appreciate all he does. because he does a lot.
i would say to pray often. i know your life is crazy, babies who are crawling leave hardly any time for yourself, but it's important. study the scriptures in the early morning before he wakes up. you can make the time, you just don't want to because sleep sounds more important. it's not. doing those things will only inspire you and better you as a mother, wife, friend, daughter, sister and person.

i would probably say a lot more. but that's all for now.